Ninety-eight percent of gays have had 20 or fewer sexual partners, compared to 99% of heterosexuals.
Or in some cases in which the sex isn’t so great, they enjoy the relationship and each other’s company so much they develop an investment in the sex becoming great.ĭespite media portrayal that gays are overtly promiscuous, a recent study by OKCupid found that homosexual men are only 1% more promsicous than heterosexuals. If the sex is good, then these men become interested in dating the other person. While sex is an important component to any relationship, gay men often experience sex as the top priority, and so sex comes first: it’s the doorway to a relationship. This can make things complicated, as there is often so much riding on sex with gay men. Meaning that while a person may be an ideal dating partner, this does not necessarily translate into them being an ideal sexual partner, and vice versa. And one of the dynamics I often bump up against with these clients in particular is the gap between sexual and relational compatibility. As an openly gay therapist who specializes at the intersection of couples and sex therapy, a large number of the clients I see are also gay.